Believe it or not, and it doesn’t matter what girlfriends, wives, and special loved ones may say, Valentine’s Day dates are a big deal. They are their own separate category really, and with just a touch of care and preparing, these over-commercialized holidays can be a gold mine of brownie points.
It’s actually quite fascinating, because the holiday itself enhances and embellishes a regular date without trying. A regular date on any other night is one thing, and done well can achieve many great things. However, the same exact date on Valentine’s Day is magnified tenfold. This does raise the stakes though, so tread lightly.
Style Speaks Volumes – FTD Rules of Thumb
- The type of person who ordinarily dresses up to go out, whether on dates or not, then needs to dress For the Date. Find small ways to completely change things up so that unique style choices come through. Let the date know without saying anything that the ensemble was chosen specifically for them.
- On the flip side, if one never dresses up at all, don’t pass by this golden opportunity to leave a long term impression. Dress for the date. Don’t outshine, but rather wear something that compliments them, and together, makes the pair seem like a radiant match.
- Details! Yes, invest in a good pair of cufflinks, shine up the dress shoes, have pants pressed or dry-cleaned, and make sure that tie looks sharp/matches. Wear a napkin in the jacket pocket, pick a new necklace that fits a little tighter around the neck, and make sure to be wearing black socks for crying out loud.
The Unspoken Language
Because roughly 80% of human communication is unspoken, during Valentine dates one needs to tap into that realm of glances, body language, verbal nuances, and feeling. Everything counts, and details matter. Let the date do most of the talking, however, don’t play twenty questions either. Say little, but speak volumes. Do not talk about oneself unless directly asked to, and keep answers short.
Flowers & Candy
Waiting until the last second to grab a rose from the corner store or gas station isn’t going to cut it. Furthermore, unless the establishment is of high class, offers only expensive dishes, and all the guys are sporting tuxes, that single red rose is a bit cliché.
Find something else, anything that isn’t technically the norm, and put a story behind it. No matter what flowers are chosen, there is always some kind of romantic story in their history somewhere – beckon the Google gods. Tailor the flowers to the date, not to Valentine’s Day.
Candy is risky, but don’t buy one of those run of the mill boxes from the supermarket. Find something else, something unique, and keep it light. The candy is just a date accessory. Order a dessert ahead of time for after the meal, and make it a surprise. That will do far more than a box of small mouth size chocolates. Keep it Light!
These dates, when taken advantage of can be huge. Dress for the other person, invest in some cufflinks, a nice pair of shoes, and make it count. Dates afterwards can be complimented with these things, so it’s not like a one-time investment. Go out of the way to be creative, and stray from any Valentine industry standards.